Emotionally Focused Therapy Resources

The following recommended Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) books and resources can help augment the couples therapy when couples are experiencing difficulty in their relationship. This can be especially helpful when you are waiting to be seen for therapy and will help you prepare for the process.  Most of the resources come in book, Kindle and audio formats. When EFT therapist is combined with these recommended resources, the changes can be profound.  Again, these resources cannot replace the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Therapy but do help facilitate the process.

Relationships

Emotionally Focused Therapy - Hold Me Tight

Hold Me Tight and the ‘Demon Dialogues’ and ways to stop the cycle and pain.

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A must read for any couple embarking on the journey of reconnecting and rebuilding their primary relationship. 

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Created For Connection: The ‘Hold Me Tight’ Guide for Christian Couples

Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? This book helps you do both as you incorporate the teachings of God into your marriage. We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith, but sometimes we need a little help.

Love Sense - Emotionally Focused Therapy

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships

Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to mate for life.  Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us humans are meant to mate for life.  She helps us better understand what healthy, loving communications looks like and what if feels like.

Workbooks

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EFT Workbook for Couples

This hands on must read, resource  helps couples begin the process of building a foundation of new ways of connecting together.  While Hold Me Tight is an excellent primer for therapy, this workbook will help carry the couple throughout the therapeutic process to really integrate the experience of therapy and build more safety between sessions.

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"Hold Me Tight" Workbook

Drawing on the latest developments in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a field pioneered by Dr. Johnson, The Hold Me Tight Workbook is packed with sage wisdom and science-backed advice, as well as compelling conversation prompts, exercises, activities, and resources to help couples work through conflict and achieve greater levels of intimacy.

Affair Recovery Resources

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Not "Just Friends"

Shirley Glass helps both the person who cheated and the one who was cheated on understand one another’s experience through empathy and awareness. This is a book has been recommended by the EFT community to help work through affairs especially when toggling back and forth between this and ‘Hold Me Tight’.
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How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair

Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons “wake up” and want to save their marriages. Yet, they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners’ trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons’ success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.

Trauma / Individuals and Couples

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What Happened To You? conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.

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Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors

This book provides a theoretical framework and a practical model of intervention for distressed couples whose relationships are affected by the echoes of trauma. Combining attachment theory, trauma research, and emotionally focused therapeutic techniques, Susan M. Johnson guides the clinician in modifying the interactional patterns that maintain traumatic stress and fostering positive, healing relationships among survivors and their partners.

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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body is the Healing of Trauma

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a foremost expert of trauma, has spent more than three decades working with survivors.  In the Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control and trust. The tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal. – and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.