Divorce vs. EFT Therapy

EFT Couples Therapy

After over 20 plus years of providing several different types of effective couple therapy, there is clearly one that stands above the rest, both in my experience and as noted in outcome studies and research. The two types that are ’empirically supported’ in the research are cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In the past, I provided CBT for many years with couples and individuals, but once I delved into EFT and became a Certified EFT Therapist, I knew which one worked for me and the couples I work with. There is a great deal of research to show that EFT works and works well.

The EFT Model of Therapy – EFT is a complex and well researched model that has 3 stages and 9 steps.

EFT can change your relationship for the better[/fusion_title][fusion_text]Fully 90% of distressed couples who complete EFT experience significant improvement in their relationship. Almost three-fourths can be classified as “recovered” by the end of treatment, having made gains so significant they no longer qualify as distressed.

EFT works even where other treatments fail

EFT has been shown to work well with couples in all social strata, couples with little formal education, and couples where the husband is rated by the wife as “inexpressive”–three groups that do not do well in other forms of couples therapy. If you think that your relationship (or your spouse) isn’t fit for traditional therapy, EFT may be just what you’re looking for.

EFT brings about create lasting change

Unlike in other forms of couples therapy, where the positive effects begin to drop off almost immediately at the end of treatment, couples who fully complete the 3 stages and 9 steps of EFT maintain their gains–and even continue to improve on them–over the next 24 months, without any additional treatment.

EFT can be a valuable investment

A complete therapy process can be expensive, no doubt. But a divorce could cost you ten times as much as therapy–maybe more–and could uproot you, your spouse, and potentially your children. If there’s even a small chance your relationship could survive whatever is currently impacting it, isn’t it worth it to make the effort?

EFT isn’t for everyone

If there is ongoing violence in your relationship, or if one partner is absolutely unwilling to even attempt emotional reconnection, EFT may not be effective. No therapy works for everyone, but EFT is among the most effective available especially combined with a strong commitment to the process by: attending weekly therapy, exploring substance issues that may be getting in the way of recovery, completing homework in order to better understanding the cycles that take the relationship down and creates disconnection.

For more information on the scientific research supporting EFT, including sources for all of the statistics cited above, please visit the EFT supportive research menu.