In our culture, many males as well as females, are ‘taught’ to suppress their emotions at a very young age. One of the ways these emotions show up when they aren’t deeply felt is to be carried around as boulders of responsibility. Over time this responsibility becomes burdensome and overwhelming and can lead to efforts to cast the emotional boulders off by either pushing them down, trying to throw them away with anger, or avoiding them completely, by numbing out with substances such as alcohol, drugs, and other process addictions.  Ultimately, these emotional boulders can lead to depression, anxiety, stress, PTSD, and adjustment issues and at times can feel as though one is on the edge of a cliff with very few options available because what is available isn’t working. Rather than being able to express deeper emotions with those we love, especially if the relationship is strained, we stay stuck in cycles within and with our partners, which only worsen over time.  Processing our emotions with the ones we love, can help lift the boulders from our shoulders and lighten our hearts.

By bridging the gap of disconnection with Emotionally Focused Therapy, couples learn to better understand what is happening on the inside of each partner and discover how they impact one another and their relationship.  With the help of EFT guided by CHC, she will work to create safety in the relationship.  This helps the partners understand how they lose each other in the negative dance,  and to assemble the emotions on the inside.  Couples then begin to create a safer more connected dance.  As this becomes the norm, partners are guided to safely share more lovingly what lies beneath the surface so each partner can hear the other’s hurts and longings and ultimately provide comfort.  This emotional sharing becomes the velcro or bridge of attachment for connection.  By processing our emotions with those closest to us, our emotions can create deep ripple effects of connection and loving attachment.